The importance of child locks

I'm going to jump straight in here with a story.

I have a friend of a friend who's child had an inappropriate experience with another child. This other child comes from a family that do not have child locks on their internet devices (computer, iPads, mobiles phones) despite the fact that the father of this household is heavy into online pornography. According to his friends, the type of adult content he views is beyond the standard, the more shocking the better. Not that is would necessarily make a difference if the content wasn't mainstream.

The children play on these devices and have seen this adult content and not being able to understand what's going on, the young son, tried to act out some images with other children. Parents were told and a conversation ensued, yet the parents in question downplayed the incident and still refuse to put locks on their devices. It seems they don't see this incident as that bad a thing. Heaven knows what the wife/mum makes of all this?

Don't blame your parents for your failures

There is a saying about how you can't blame your parents for your life being bad once you're the one in the driving seat.

We're pretty much in the driving seat once we move out of home. Sure, we still have our parents voices in our head, and if it was negative it's hard to get those voices to stop. Sometimes it's even hard to like ourselves depending on the type of damage your parents have done.

Still it's up to us to take over the wheel and be the drivers of our own life and stop blaming our parents and using them as our excuse for failure.

Are you guilty of this? Have you struggled to let go of the hurt your parents inflicted on you? Have you struggled to be a better parent than they were because you don't know any other way?

They key to letting go of the past and who your parents told you you are is finding yourself. Finding those things that make you happy and going for it.