Those flip out moments

If we're honest with ourselves we all have flip out moments as parents. It's how we deal with those moments that makes all the difference because it's those flip out moments that our children tend to remember the most.

If you think about your parents can you recall the times your parents got angry with you? Or can you only recall happy moments because that was all your childhood was filled with (lucky you)? For most of us those angry moments stand out in our memories. If those moments were frequent it can seem like that was all our childhood was about; angry parents who never stopped yelling at us and telling us how bad we were.

Being yelled at doesn't feel good. Getting into trouble doesn't feel good. Yet learning lessons is a normal part of childhood and it's the parents job to teach their children those valuable lessons. In good ways a child can learn from without being made to feel bad about themselves. 

Does the consequence fit the crime?

Along with consistency there must also be consequences, preferably immediate!!

Let me jump straight into examples.

Scenario 1) Your child is on a trampoline and is pushing other children. He pushes one child over and that child gets hurt. You do nothing and he does it again. This time another child gets hurt. After a while you tell your child if they don't stop they'll have their iPad  taken away for a week.

What's wrong with that scenario?