Don't over do it. Don't raise one of those pampered beauty pageant type kids who think they're gods gift to the world even though they haven't actually done a great deal to make a difference to the world. Keep it real and make it simple.
It is a good thing to try and find out the things your child likes to be told. You can do this by talking to them and finding out their interests, or you can do it by trial and error and see what lights them up.
Children tend to like hearing simple appreciative things like: good manners, thanks for helping, I hear you playing nicely, good job, good work, it's nice to see you smile, I like hearing you laugh, hello gorgeous / handsome / beautiful / precious, wow you ate all your dinner, well done, you're awesome.
If your dealing with teenagers the compliments could be a bit more adult like: tell me that funny story again, I love seeing you happy, thanks for putting the dishes away, you're a great listener, good job on your assignment.
Give them nicknames, something they love to be called like: darling, sweet heart, princess, possum, lovely bubbly, astronaut, dragonfly, what ever tickles their and your fancy.
Don't put yourself or your partner down. If you children hear you doing this they will pick up those negatives vibes. If you don't like yourself, are you a good enough judge of them? If you don't like your partner then maybe you're lying when you say you like your children?
There is a bigger psychology behind compliments and insults. You can compliment your child and insult them and they'll mostly remember the insult and assume the compliment is not how you really feel.
Think back to the names you were called as a child, the negative ones and the positive. How many of each name can you recall? Is the insult list longer?
It is a good thing to try and find out the things your child likes to be told. You can do this by talking to them and finding out their interests, or you can do it by trial and error and see what lights them up.
Children tend to like hearing simple appreciative things like: good manners, thanks for helping, I hear you playing nicely, good job, good work, it's nice to see you smile, I like hearing you laugh, hello gorgeous / handsome / beautiful / precious, wow you ate all your dinner, well done, you're awesome.
If your dealing with teenagers the compliments could be a bit more adult like: tell me that funny story again, I love seeing you happy, thanks for putting the dishes away, you're a great listener, good job on your assignment.
Give them nicknames, something they love to be called like: darling, sweet heart, princess, possum, lovely bubbly, astronaut, dragonfly, what ever tickles their and your fancy.
Don't put yourself or your partner down. If you children hear you doing this they will pick up those negatives vibes. If you don't like yourself, are you a good enough judge of them? If you don't like your partner then maybe you're lying when you say you like your children?
There is a bigger psychology behind compliments and insults. You can compliment your child and insult them and they'll mostly remember the insult and assume the compliment is not how you really feel.
Think back to the names you were called as a child, the negative ones and the positive. How many of each name can you recall? Is the insult list longer?
That is why it's crucial you compliment your children.
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