1)
I babysat for a woman who had two sons who were only a couple of years apart. Super cute, super well behaved boys. No problem to look after at all. Before leaving to go on her outing she would sit with the youngest son, tuck him in and talk with him for a while. The older boy would call to her from his room asking her to come and tuck him in too. And she wouldn't!!!!
I babysat for a woman who had two sons who were only a couple of years apart. Super cute, super well behaved boys. No problem to look after at all. Before leaving to go on her outing she would sit with the youngest son, tuck him in and talk with him for a while. The older boy would call to her from his room asking her to come and tuck him in too. And she wouldn't!!!!
One day I asked her why she never tucks in the older son and only tucks in the younger son. Her excuse was the older son looked like her and was good looking and would have no lack of attention in his life, while the younger son resembled they father and needed all the attention he could get.
It really is the most stupid thing I've ever heard! A lousy excuse for literally ignoring one child while outwardly and openly favouring the other. I spoke up and stated that I feel it's not a good idea to ignore the older boy this way. Not sure whether she took that in?
While I minded these boys for some years I never got to see them grow and can only speculate as to the type of effect these early years had on them.
2)
There were 3 children, 2 boys and one girl. The father doted on the daughter, giving her anything and everything she ever asked for, spoiling her rotten, while noticeably ignoring and neglecting his sons. Even when his sons grew up and confronted him he disregarded their concerns and continued to dote on his daughter well into her adulthood.
There were 3 children, 2 boys and one girl. The father doted on the daughter, giving her anything and everything she ever asked for, spoiling her rotten, while noticeably ignoring and neglecting his sons. Even when his sons grew up and confronted him he disregarded their concerns and continued to dote on his daughter well into her adulthood.
This woman grew up to be incredibly self centered to the point where if she's not getting positive attention from others in the same manner as her father, she retaliates.
An example of what she's like: her brother and his wife borrowed money from the mum after the mum offered to pay for them to have their house re-carpeted. A gift to her son and her daughter in law. The spoiled sister complained to her friends that the brother and wife got 3 quotes and went with the most expensive quote, and how dare they scab off the mother this way. Even though the amount of money this woman has received from both parents is mind boggling. Hundreds of thousands of dollars!
She has no relationship with her brothers and their families and cannot understand why people don't like her. In her mind she is the princess her dad has made her out to be and she cannot understand why people don't love her the way daddy does. Sadly she has no understanding of how difficult she is to be around and how greedy she is. The sons also have very strained relationships with both parents and are angry at how they've been, and continue to be, treated compared to their sister.
These are 2 examples of favouritism and you can see when reading these stories how detrimental favouritism can be.
As a parent you MUST love each child equally (or at the very least hide any fact to the contrary). Each child is a gift with their own unique personalities and strengths and they each deserve unconditional love and the same treatment and respect as their siblings.
Have you got a story about favouritism?
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