Parenting is hard and there are all manner of things that can go wrong.
1/ Your upbringing was abusive and you find it hard not to parent that way.
2/ Your upbringing was neglectful and you lack the know-how to get your children to behave.
3/ You're unwell, have mental illness, disabilities and struggle to juggle.
4/ You're at work/busy all the time and children are so demanding.
5/ You had the child when you were still a child; you are meant to teach them all the rules yet you don't know them yourself.
STEP ONE - ask yourself
a/ Do you need parenting classes, help, advice, support, a day off from parenting?
b/ Or are you someone who knows others in this position?
STEP TWO - learn
Don't be afraid to ask for help. Ask a parent who is doing well how they do it. Implement the necessary changes? Do better even if it's one thing a day, no yelling that day, adding extra things every so often.
Make Saturday mornings "everyone helps ... " days. Don't do it all alone. Children are there to help.
Read blogs, ask questions, borrow books. Seek advice. If you find helpful blogs share with friends so you can all help each other out.
Test yourself. Are you doing or getting better?
STEP THREE - teach
If you know someone in need of help, step in and offer to do something for them. Assist.
If you're good at parenting, help another parent out. Sometimes that might mean giving them a break.
I know it is hard to mention to any parenting that what they're doing isn't working for them, yet we must. Even if it's 'can I try something', 'can I help', 'what do you need', 'I'd like to share something with you'.
TRUTH
We're not all good parents - and even good parents aren't good all of the time.
Some are really really terrible. Abusive. Violent. Ignorant. Neglectful. Distant. Not there for their children. Drugs, alcohol, trauma, mental illness.
Some violent parents want to do better, they just don't know how. Some don't or won't acknowledge they're violent. Some violent parents seek help and make improvements.
Truth be told, I've got friends (parents) who have asked for my help and don't follow through with advice. That falls on them at the end of the day. We can only do our best to assist. Each parent has to WANT TO DO BETTER. If they don't that falls on them and bad luck for the children (who may or may not become better parents themselves).
