1) A mother had this 3 year old daughter. This little girl would often through tantrums to get her way. An example of that is: one day the daughter wanted some chocolate and the mother said no. The little girl went out to the front door step (very clever, she knew it would draw a crowd) and began screaming and crying. Lying on the ground billowing and throwing her arms about. The mother tried to ignore her but found she couldn't and ended up going up to the daughter with some chocolate.
2) Another time that little girl tried the same tantrum for the same reason when a visitor was there. This time the visitor asked the mum to close the front door and walk away, and she distracted the mother whose child was having a fit on the front doorstep. The little girl stopped her tantrum on the doorstep and came inside. She had wanted attention and didn't get any. She did however begin the tantrum again on the floor in front of her mother. She was use to this working and getting her way.
3) A mother was shopping with her 3 year old son. This little boy was touching something he was asked not to and the mother told him to put it back. He hit the deck like a sack of spuds, wailing with limbs flying. His eyes were closed so the didn't see his mum nick off around the corner to watch him from the next isle. A crowd gathered around the boy and when he stopped and opened his eyes he saw he was surrounded by strangers, his mum no where in sight. He stood up and walked away, his mother popping out in front of him and asking, "Are you done?" He nodded and they continued shopping.
4) A mother had a 6 year old son who decided to throw a tantrum while she was entertaining visitors. It was a trivial matter, not worth throwing a tantrum over. The boy just felt overwhelmed, unloved, and un-noticed. He fell to the floor sooking and throwing his body about. The mum dropped to the floor beside him and joined in - visitors watching and all. The boy stopped and looked at her. "I look ridiculous don't I?" she asked him. He said yes and she told him so does he. He got the point and walked off to his room.
5) While shopping a little girl wants her auntie to hire a special animal shaped push cart to push her around in. The aunt says no because she has to pay a deposit and fill in paperwork and she just wants to pop in and out. The little girl gets teary, starts to cry and demand the push cart. The aunt gives in to her tears and arranges the push cart.
6) The little boy doesn't want to do what he's told so he starts crying and getting emotional. It starts off with just tears and grows bigger and bigger until he's calling the mum names, trying to hit and kick her as she tries to calm him down. She puts him in his room and leaves him to calm down. He continues to cry and kick and hit and and throw toys around for a good 45 minutes. After a while he starts to become exhausted and calm down. Eventually he comes out of the room and does what his mum asked him to.
7) A four year old is shopping with her mum, she is sitting in the trolley toddler seat and is wheeled past some lollies. She asks her mum for a lolly and the mum says no. The little girl cries and wails for the duration of her shopping trip. Up and down the isles the mother goes doing her shopping, all the while the little girl carries on. They get to the checkout and pay, the little girl still crying, and then they leave. No matter how much she carried on the mother didn't give in and give her a lolly.
You can see here a range of different tantrum situations and how they're dealt with. The question is - which parent are you most like?
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