What happens when spoiled children grow up

It just so happens I knew a few spoiled children growing up and some I still know to this day. And let me tell you their personalities SUCK!

They are horrible self-indulgent me me adults and it's all because their parents never set rules, disciplined  them or taught them respect for others. The only person they care about is THEM.

Their childhood was about them ruling their roost. They called the shots either by tantrums, nagging, begging, pleading or out right rudeness and rebellion. They wore their (soft) parents down with gigantic tantrums because they were told No until finally the parent changed their mind and gave them what they wanted. They learned THEY are the boss and their parents are their slaves, put on this earth merely to provide them with everything they want - whether it's good for them or otherwise.

As parents they're equally as bad as their own parents because they have no idea what real discipline looks like. On this note I do feel sorry for them. I watch them struggle to get their children to behave and I watch them fail again and again. Just like their parents they tend to be really lax (they call themselves patient or new age or tolerant), they're very non-consistent and when they finally reach breaking point they lose their temper and fly off the handle. Teaching the child nothing except that 'my parent is a psycho'.

Another complication with spoiled parents is they HATE being given advice. Most people don't like having an issue pointed out and yet spoiled people dislike it even more. They see advice as being told what to do, their failings being pointed out to them and they're not use to being told anything negative about themselves. They're not use to hearing the word No therefore they don't like someone saying "No, that isn't working for you... here is what I suggest."

Sadly they usually raise unruly children that other people tend to dislike and this makes me feel bad for the children. They didn't ask for soft parents. They didn't ask for parents who are nice one minute, psycho the next. They didn't ask to grow up in a world where the rules don't make sense because the rules change all the time. They're usually confused and unhappy and don't get how the world works.

My way may seem strict, harsh, bossy to some... however children Love, need, want and respond well to rules (whether they know it or not).